One of the most asked questions I get is ‘ how do I get so confident ?!’
It's not something that happened overnight, but it's definitely something that has improved with age.
The most important thing I have learnt whilst building my confidence is that, it has very little to do with your appearance. If this is something you struggle with, I have written down a few pointers on how to become more confident and stay confident forever.
KNOW YOUR WORTH
It starts at the very core. Understanding your worth is a huge part of becoming confident. This might sound rather strange, but taking the time to sit down and figuring out the things you want out of life, understanding the things that you are proud of, feeling grateful for what you have and moving past your past mistakes will help you understand your worth. Without realising it, we often surround ourselves by negative people to can damage our confidence and emotionally disconnecting ourselves from those can be beneficial. Spend your time with those who want to support your dreams and are proud of you, instead of having your positive energy ‘ eaten ‘ by jealous and negative people.
Meditating is my favourite way of practising gratitude, positivity and staying focused. Even as little as 3 minutes a day is enough to remind yourself how lucky you are, how wonderful you are and get rid of any negativity in your life.
BE BEAUTIFUL FROM THE INSIDE OUT
Do you know the number one thing that people are attracted to? HAPPINESS. The more you smile, the happier you are, the more attractive you become to other people. No one cares if your teeth are wonky or if you have a giant spot on your face. If you want to be and feel more attractive you have to do more of what makes you happy.
STOP BEING A PEOPLE PLEASER
Not everyone is going to like you and not everyone will find you attractive. Don’t shy away from opportunities, because you’re worried of what people may think. Since becoming a blogger and putting majority of my life on the internet for everyone to see, I have learnt that some people really don’t like me. I DON’T CARE FOR THEIR REASONS TO DO SO. I know I am not hurting anyone, therefore their reasons for not liking me are irrelevant. If you want to be more confident, you’ll have to accept that others might find it intimidating. Be yourself and if you want something just go for it. Coz you know, haters gonna hate, hate, hate
BE A BIT MORE LIKE KANYE
We live in a society that teaches us to SHAME those who are confident. We call them arrogant, self assured, narcissistic. But what the hell is wrong with knowing and speaking out loud about the things you’re good at? Don’t put yourself down, do the opposite. Tell everyone how great you are :) because you’re amazing and you should not be ashamed of it.
Oh, where do I even start… Do not compare yourself to others. Just don’t. Whether its their financial position, their success, their looks, this is all so subjective. Just because someone is richer or slimmer than you, does not mean you are in any way better. People find happiness in different things and you must focus on yourself. This is my personal biggest enemy, being around beautiful and successful people on daily basis can be really damaging to my confidence. This is where I return to feelings of gratitude and remind myself that I am wonderful,because I am myself. I am always happy for others and remind myself that we are all on our own journeys.
FAKE IT TILL YOU MAKE IT
If you’re feeling really down and force yourself to smile, your brain eventually starts sending signals to your brain to start producing endorphins, which results in you feeling happier. You can master feeling confident by practising it. When you’re walking down the road, listen to your favourite music and put your head up high. If you do that every time you take a walk, eventually it’ll become second nature.
For me, my posture is very important when it comes to my confidence, so I'll let you in on a little secret. This is why I wear high heels, all day, every day.
I sincerely hope that you have found my tips useful. If you have any questions on how I stay confident, please don’t hesitate to ask.